There is so much I still don’t know about parenthood. In fact, there is a lot I will never know. But I’ve picked up a few truisms along the way. Ya know, things that keep me from screaming into a pillow all too often.
These are the things I wish every struggling mother knew:
1. Patience, the kind that parenting requires, is not something most of us inherently have- it is a practice. Let it evolve, let it grow and watch yourself do the same.
2. One day, sleep will come. It won’t be soon, but it will be worth the wait.
3. Luke warm anything can be too hot, drinks can be too cold and sandwiches can be “too sandwichey.” Act accordingly.
4. Your work is important. And the days where it feels unimportant, it is probably the most important.
5. Persistence is everything. Breathe, don’t quit.
6. Ignoring your kids sometimes is good for the soul.
7. Vacations are completely and totally exhausting in every way.
8. There will be a point in your parenting journey when you are certain you are doing everything wrong and that no one understands you at all. Disregard and move on.
9. The most important thing you can do is to have faith in yourself as a parent.
10. Kids repeat everything they hear on TV or in books. Choose wisely or take being called a “scrub” in stride.
11. In times of trouble, go outside, look around and remember there is a whole world outside of your four walls.
12. Yelling is pretty much never worth it.
13. Don’t believe anyone who acts like they have it all together. None of us are without struggle. Some just try harder to cover it up.
14. Childhood is magical and amazing. You’re the lucky one who gets to participate again. Don’t be a bystander.
15. For every difficult moment, or meltdown, or stage- this too shall pass.